Discrimination and harassment claims often depend on evidence. Good documentation can show patterns, timing and the employer's response, and it helps lawyers and agencies evaluate your case quickly.
What to write down
- Dates, times and places of each incident.
- Exactly what was said or done, using direct quotes where possible.
- Names of the people involved and any witnesses.
- How you responded and whom you told.
- How the conduct affected your work, health or pay.
- Any changes in duties, schedule, reviews or discipline.
What to save
- Emails, texts and chat messages related to the conduct or to your performance.
- Performance reviews, commendations and awards.
- Job descriptions, handbooks and policies on discrimination and reporting.
- Pay records and schedules showing differences.
- Medical or counseling records if you sought care.
Be careful with company information
Keep copies of your own records and messages sent to you, but avoid taking confidential business files, which can lead to discipline or claims against you. If you are unsure, describe what exists and ask a lawyer how to preserve it properly. Know your state's rules on recording conversations before recording anyone.
Reporting internally
Follow your employer's complaint procedure and report in writing, describing the conduct and asking for action. Keep a copy and note the date. A prompt written report can strengthen your claim and trigger the employer's duty to respond.
Retaliation records
If treatment changes after you complain, record when it started and what changed. Retaliation is illegal and sometimes easier to prove than the original conduct. See our guide to retaliation at work.
Deadlines
Charges with the EEOC or state agencies must be filed within strict time limits, often 180 or 300 days from the incident. Document dates carefully and do not wait. See our guide to filing an EEOC charge.
Protecting your well-being
Use support such as counseling, trusted colleagues and employee assistance programs. Keep your notes on a personal device or private account, not on employer systems.
Real-life scenarios
- An employee keeps a dated log and saves emails showing repeated comments.
- A worker reports a manager in writing and later records a sudden negative review.
- An employee consults a lawyer after realizing the EEOC deadline is close.
Common mistakes to avoid
- Relying on memory alone.
- Keeping notes on work devices.
- Taking confidential documents.
- Waiting until the deadline.
- Recording without checking state law.
- Posting accusations publicly.
Questions to ask a professional
- What evidence is most useful for my claim?
- How do I preserve it safely?
- What deadlines apply?
- Should I report internally first?
- Is recording legal in my state?
A practical action plan
- Start a dated log today.
- Save relevant messages and records safely.
- Report in writing.
- Track any retaliation.
- Consult an employment lawyer or file a charge on time.
Terms you may hear
- Hostile work environment: severe or pervasive harassment.
- Retaliation: punishment for protected activity.
- EEOC: the federal agency enforcing employment discrimination laws.
- Protected class: a group covered by anti-discrimination law.
- Pattern evidence: repeated conduct showing a trend.
Building a clear timeline
Create a chronology that lists each event, the date, the people involved, what was said or done and what you did next. Add performance milestones, such as reviews and promotions, to show how treatment changed. A clear timeline helps lawyers and agencies understand the case quickly.
Finding corroboration
Identify coworkers who saw or heard events, former employees who had similar experiences and documents that support your account, such as schedules or pay data. Ask witnesses only what they are comfortable sharing, and avoid pressuring them.
Preparing for an agency interview
Bring your timeline, key documents and a short summary of the harm you suffered. Be factual and consistent, and answer questions directly. If you do not remember something, say so rather than guessing.
Frequently asked questions
Should I keep a diary at work?
Keep notes privately and not on employer systems.
Can I forward emails to myself?
Be careful with confidential information and ask a lawyer.
Do I have to report internally?
Often yes for harassment, so the employer can respond.
How long do I have to file a charge?
Commonly 180 or 300 days, depending on the state.
Can I record my boss?
It depends on state consent laws.